Thursday, December 27, 2007

Comparing my kids Japanese and American personalities, more on what makes Japanese people tick, and all about sitting on the floor in Japan

We hope you had a wonderful Christmas holiday, wherever you are in the world. We had a great day, complete with turkey, lots of champagne and authentic Yorkshire Pudding.
It's interesting, being in the U.S. with my Japanese family and observing how my kids are taken over by their "American personalities" the longer they stay here. The Japanese have a saying to the effect that boys will take after their mother and girls will be like their father, an idea which I'd poo-poo'ed as a superstition until our kids were born. Our son is very Japanese, and although he has a lot of knowledge of English to draw on, he's often so shy about making mistakes that he'll refuse to open his mouth at all, a lot like his Japanese mother. My daughter takes after me, though: she seems very American in all that she does, and she's never shy about opening her mouth to speak English. While my son gets along quite well in Japan, my daughter's "American-ness" sometimes causes minor problems for her in her school, with the many meaningless rules she has to follow getting her down at times. All of these problems go out the window here in America, where (as seen from our Japanese life, at least), anything goes -- a person can do anything and be anything they want, and our daughter is positively glowing here in the States. One of the biggest rules in Japan is "act your age" (ii toshi shite), and generally speaking, people do what's expected of them according to their age group, which usually doesn't involve collecting Star Wars toys into their thirties. When my mother bought me a cool remote controlled R2-D2 toy for Christmas, my wife commented that it'd be very rare to find a Japanese man my age receiving a gift like that.

One aspect of living in Japan every foreigner must come to terms with is sitting on the floor. The Japanese do a lot of floor sitting, and even the most modern Western-style house will probably have at least one traditional Japanese-style room with tatami mats. One of my favorite things in Japan is the kotatsu, a low table with a heater inside and a blanket between the frame and the tabletop, which lets you get warm by sticking your legs inside. Since Japanese homes lack central heating, and it'd be far too expensive to heat the whole house anyway, kotatsu are very economical, as you're only heating a small space used by several people at once. They're also great for improving family life, since everyone will jam their legs inside and have a conversation rather than scattering around the house to do their own thing. The only negative to kotatsu? When Jiichan (grandfather) has flatulence inside the blanket part, causing a huge problem for everyone.
Each country in the world has what the Japanese call kokumin-sei, a kind of "national personality" or a list of traits that most people from that country tend to share. For example, Americans are seen by the Japanese as being optimistic almost to fault, believing that virtually any problem can be solved. We're also extremely friendly, even with people we don't know well, which can be hard for them to understand. The Japanese kokumin-sei is quite unique, too. In general, Japanese tend to be very peaceful, and go out of their way to avoid conflict with others. They're concerned with the image Japan presents to the world, and some major construction projects such as Japan's first bullet trains were done partially to make foreigners oo and ah when they came for the 1968 Tokyo Olympics. Also, most Japanese tend to be extremely modest, and it can be surprising when Westerners compliment a Japanese on their English ability, only to have them vehemently deny the remark. In my single days, I traveled all around Japan, hitchhiking or riding trains (there's a cool ticket called "Youth 18" which lets you ride as far as you want for $24, a bargain as long as you don't mind riding the slow local trains for 16 hours a day). Once, I encountered a boy and his mother while traveling near Hiroshima, and as we talked, the boy was going on and on about how baka (stupid) he was, so stupid that he'd never amount to anything at all. It surprised me to hear anyone talk like this about himself, much less an educated youth from one of the world's richest countries, but I realized later it was a kind of polite self-effacing that didn't mean much.
J-List is loaded to the gills with amazing anime, JPOP, sexy bikini idol, traditional photograph, and other fun calendars like sushi and bento. These calendars are printed for the Japanse domestic market and are hard to find outside of Japan, but we've got an incredible selection for you still. And starting right now, all calendars come with free mailing tubes, making it an even better reason to buy. Check out our Japanese calendars now!
Here are today's "really cool products" that I've picked out for you, out of the 30+ new items we've added to the J-List and JBOX.com sites today. Note that some products may be "not safe for work" but that all links will allow you to redirect yourself either to the J-List or JBOX.com websites. To see all the J-List products, check out J-List or the JBOX.com updated products link.

HEAVEN -- Leah Dizon
HEAVEN -- Leah Dizon. Leah Dizon is a huge star in Japan, famous for her beautiful face and body. This is a great photobook with included DVD, a rare item for her fans issued only in Japan.
Meiji Green Tea Macadamia Chocolate
Delicious New Snacks. We've got great new Japanese snacks for you too, including Princess Soft Chocolate from Lotte, delicious Mont Blanc cakes, and a fabulous item, Meiji Green Tea Macadamia Chocolate, a super item for matcha fans.
The Tokyo Look Book: Stylish to Spectacular, Goth to Gyaru, Sidewalk to Catwalk
The Tokyo Look Book: Stylish to Spectacular, Goth to Gyaru, Sidewalk to Catwalk. Here's an interesting book that introduces you to the world of Japanese popular culture and fashion as seen through many eyes. Loaded with great images of Japan's cool under-culture.
Ultimate Action Evangelion DX Trading Figure -- Full Set of 5
Ultimate Action Evangelion DX Trading Figures. Eva fans, here's a set of really cool figures from the coolest and most influential anime of the past decade. A great set of five different detailed figures, EVA units and Angels for them to fight.
Fraulein Revoltech 003 Soryu Asuka Langley  Neon Genesis Evangelion *Preorder*
Fraulein Revoltech #003 Soryu Asuka Langley ~ Neon Genesis Evangelion *Preorder*. The excellent Fraulein Revoltech series continues, featuring Asuka from Evangelion, rendered in a beautiful and extremely flexible form that can be bent into any shape.
Edge II  Samurai in the Future
Edge II ~ Samurai in the Future. Here's a memorable artbook loaded with color images of samurai culture at its best, with vibrant and beautiful images of Japan's famous warriors from 30 different artists, including Katsuya Terada, Satoi Yuiga, and Mobius (!).
Gunnm Another Stories Limited Edition  Gally Original Action Figure -- Gunnm Gaiden Comic with Figure
Gunnm Another Stories Limited Edition ~ Gally Original Action Figure. Here's a really special item, a thick manga volume of Battle Angel Alita (aka "Gunnm") with side stories for you to enjoy. It comes with the beautiful figure of Alita rendered in a fully posable body.
Gundam Soundrop Aoi Kyosei ver. -- Full Set of 8
Gundam Soundrop Aoi Kyosei ver. -- Full Set of 8. Gundam is to the Japanese as Star Wars is to the rest of the world, and no one male child born between 1968 and 2007 grows up without loving the original series. Here's a new Soundrop voice keychain that plays the most popular lines from the series when you press the buttons.
Poop Bath Light  Dr. Slump Unchi-kun
Poop Bath Light ~ Dr. Slump Unchi-kun. The Japanese are big fans of "unchi" (poop) as a bringer of good luck. Here's a light-up poop that you can put in the bath, or just about anywhere else you like. This is the strangest item we've carried in a long time -- enjoy!
Kitty Aroma Ball -- Pink with Polka Dot Bow  Premium Scent
Kitty Aroma Ball -- Pink with Polka Dot Bow ~ Premium Scent. We just love the Kitty Aroma Ball series of scented Hello Kitty objets d'art, and this is a great new item, with a new bow color and a premium new scent. Put it in your car, bathroom or cubicle.
Natsukashii Winter Figure Display  Lucky Cat  KOTATSU - Nostalgic Shop
Natsukashii Winter Figure Display ~ Lucky Cat & KOTATSU - Nostalgic Shop. A "kotatsu" is a small Japanese table with a blanket in between the frame and the tabletop, and you put your legs inside to keep toasty warm. As you can imagine, cats really love these things. Here's a great display item featuring a cute Lucky Cat with a Kotatsu table.
Haikyo Hyoryu
Haikyo Hyoryu - Images of Destruction in Japan. There are many fans of "modern ruins" in Japan, enjoying he special eeriness of recently abandoned buildings which are riddled with their own unique ghosts. This book is an awesome new addition to this category.
New Year's Decoration  SHIMENAWA  SHISHIMAI
New Year's Decoration ~ SHIMENAWA & SHISHIMAI. New Year's is coming soon, and you can decorate your home with these great traditional New Year's decorations. Hang them on your door for good luck in the new year!
Aya Red Bikini version 1/8 Figure  Onei Chanbara
Preorder Figures Ready For Shipping. Some great anime figures we'd had posted for preorder have come in, including the awesome Aya Red Bikini and Aya Black Bikini (that cowboy hat and samurai sword!) and Louise from Zero no Tsukaima.
Eating in Japan 3 - Nihon e toki Jiten
Study Items. Got some good study items back in stock for you, including the comprehensive bilingual guide to Eating in Japan, and another multi-language book, Japanese Nuance in Plain English.
' Modern + ' Chopsticks and Aluminum Slide Case
"Nikyoro" Bento Boxes, Chopsticks, Bento fans know that J-List has the best selection anywhere. Today we're restocking the fun Nikyoro (from "niko niko" meaning smiling, and "kyoro kyoro" meaning looking around from left to right) bento boxes as well as the Modern Chopsticks and Aluminum Sliding Case.
DVD MAX special 2005
DVD MAX special 2005. An outstanding photo magazine from Japan that's jammed full of the best JAV stars for you to drool over. Also comes with a super DVD for you, with 130 minutes of fantastic performances by these superstars.
Ura SAYAKA -- Sayaka Uchida / Sayaka Numajiri
Ura SAYAKA -- Sayaka Uchida / Sayaka Numajiri. See the "other side" or two lovely girls named Sayaka, Sayaka Uchida and Sayaka Numajiri, two great tastes that taste great together in this dynamite photobook release.
A Flower Blooms in the Darkness  Kurayami ni Saku Hana
New Manga Volumes. Today's new "H" include some really nice ones, with A Flower Blooms in the Darkness, a story with sci-fi / Fantasy "ero" themes you will love, and the lip-licking Pearl Rose from Megastore Comics and artist Tokie.
Big Oppai Zoom Up -- Ai Sayama
Big Oppai Zoom Up -- Ai Sayama. Ai-chan wants you to look at her, and with her fantastic "H" cup (heh) that's what you will be doing plenty of in her new release from Alice Japan.

5 comments:

Peter in Japan said...

In addition to the R2-D2 book, I got a big-ass book of space pictures called Cosmos that was great, all the Harry Potter Blu-Ray discs, the Close Encounters of a Third Kind Blu-Ray, and a few other items. How did you make out this Christmas?

timo said...

I got a gift certificate for Target; I'll probably get some iPhone accessory.
Question, can you use your Blue-ray discs in Japan and U.S.?

Kay said...

wiiI~!

Kay said...

some money, the wii is for the whole family. my dad is really into the wii.. because of the internet capabilites. he wants to sit on the couch and check his stocks.

i usually go to japan every new years, but this year we are staying the states for winter season. my ojiisan died in august of this year, an apparently we ae not supposed to have any celebrations

peter, what to the japnese do for mourning, besides the funeral. and commemoration memorials? what is he immediate family supposed to do?

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